Welp, today I’m another year older. I don’t mind getting older. So far, I’ve found a lot of the cliches to be true- I’m more self assured. I know myself better than ever. I’m less bothered by things I can’t control. In the “owning who I am, accepting the things I cannot change” aspects, I’ve certainly made progress. In other “make a plan of things to grow your life” ways- not so much. Each year, I think about the things I’d like to accomplish before the next birthday, and looking back over the last several birthdays, turns out I’m TERRIBLE at executing those wish list items. In fact, I’m pretty sure everything on my list from last year is still on the docket for this year. I don’t know whether I should be impressed with my inertia, or if I should be deeply ashamed that time is passing me by so quickly with little to nothing to show for it but an unfulfilled wish list. This year, I’m determined to move on some of these items that have lingered- some for years- and I’m writing about it on the internet as a way to attempt some accountability.
It’s really not a vacation if we don’t center then entire thing around food and drink. Ross is a well-documented beer nerd (and the Homebrewer’s Conference is what took us out there in the first place) and we had a LOOOONNNNNNNG list of breweries to hit. Before we crammed in as many as humanly possible, we made time for a belated birthday wish…
Yep. That’s right. Ross wanted to skydive. Good for him, really. I had no interest. I like my feet firmly on the ground, and those of you who know me know what a challenge that can be, even on the best of days. His appointment was at 3pm, so we had the morning free to do as we pleased, so we did what we do best- eat.
Prepare yourselves for all the photos. And all the food. And all the photos. You’ve been warned. We ate so much and did so many things, that I’m breaking it up into two posts. If I’m boring myself with the length of this post, I’m sure you’re feeling the same way. Part two will contain more food, and a big bucket list item for Ross… stay tuned.
I’m going gray. There. I said it. The gray hairs have been creeping in slowly and steadily since my 25th birthday or so, and in recent months, I noticed that I was starting to develop a streak right along my natural part. When my hair was long, the grays were more noticeable. I covered them with a generic box dye and didn’t have much issue. When I cut my hair off two years ago, I was suddenly able to go without dying my hair. The grays weren’t nearly as noticeable, and blended in with the variety of color I had in my hair naturally.
When the streak really started making itself known, I knew I was at a crossroads. While I accept and advocate for the concept of aging gracefully, I’m 32 years old. That’s way too young for me to give myself over to going gray completely. So I decided before I started dying my hair brown, and kept it brown forever, I’d have a short stop at blonde.
I delayed starting a blog for a long time. It’s something I’ve thought about and daydreamed about, but I struggled with the idea of putting myself out on the internet. The reality is, I’m a completely average, plus-size, 32 year old. Depending on the reader, that’s either a lot of reasons to start a blog, or a lot of reasons to run like hell away from the internet. I think I’ve spent much of my life waiting until I felt exceptional at something before taking action. I’ve never really felt exceptional at anything other than giving unsolicited life advice to anyone unfortunate enough to be in my vicinity, so the idea that I could put my face and my interests on the internet boggled my mind. I’m 5 solid months into the process and so far, I’m loving it. The ten or so people that read have been absolutely complimentary (and see, I’m even capable of attempting to solicit some lolz).
I think I’m here now because I know who I am. I know my strengths and weaknesses, and there isn’t a whole lot to lose by sharing. People don’t like it? So what. People don’t read it (except my mom) Nothing lost. I’m still me. I don’t have any regrets (except maybe my previous use of lolz) but I know I’d regret not putting myself out there when I had the chance.
It helps that 2014 was a banner year for women like me and 2015 is off the charts so far. I saw more plus-size fashion icons emerge. I followed more blogs and channels that are led by completely ordinary women that are incredibly INTERESTING and AMAZING for no other reason than they share their passion in a compelling way. It’s empowering and it makes me feel like maybe my little slice of the world isn’t as invisible as I’d previously thought.
So. Here I am. I’ll probably write more, in addition to posting makeupy things because it’s cathartic, and I want to, which is reason enough for me.
I hope that if you are waiting until you feel exceptional to pursue something you want, you quit waiting and take action immediately. The one ‘life truth’ that has proven absolutely true in my case, is that I’m much more happier and confident in my 30’s. I’m wise enough now to know there are certain things about myself that will never change, and the sooner I let go of what cannot be, the happier I will be. The other truth is that there is no right time for anything. There is only now. I’m putting myself out there. Join me, won’t you?
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It’s been a while since I’ve shared by current obsessions, mostly because I’m still obsessed with all the things I listed in my last post. I’ve had a few new things hit my radar, and I can’t seem to get enough.
1. Dystopian YA Novel on Twitter (@DystopianYA). This account is hilarious. If you read YA at all, you’ll immediately recognize what’s happening with this account. I’m obsessed, and hope more people follow.
2. Great British Baking Show (aka Bake Off). I know. I know. It was listed in my last obsessions post, but the finale aired on Sunday, and I laughed and I cried. I crave more episodes! Why do UK shows do such a better job of casting real, likable people who don’t cater to infuriating stereotypes (the diva, the muscle-head, the rich out-of-touch snob, etc). We LOVE to cast these roles in every reality show we air in the US. I wish we’d have more of these realistic castings. No drama. Each week someone still leaves the show, and eventually a winner is crowned, but there’s no bitching, no backstabbing, no bickering. I love the sincerity and the focus on the challenge. Can you tell??
3. The Original Sinners Series (starting with The Siren). Warning- this book series is HOTTTTTTT. I don’t even remember where I was initially introduced to it, but I read it thinking I would have a quick, trashy, no-fuss read, but I got hooked and kept reading the next book, then the next one. As the series continues, the character development is crazy good. It’s also incredibly empowering for women and sexuality. A main female protagonist who makes no apologies for her life? Love it.
4. Caroline Hirons. If you haven’t seen her name all over this blog, then you haven’t been paying attention. She’s the queen of skincare, and she’s changed my skin for the better. I can’t even believe how terribly I treated my skin in the years it mattered most, and now I’m working hard to undo what amounts to ignorance in my teens. If you see a Tata Harper product somewhere on this blog, it’s because she’s recommended it. I’ve been using two of their products, and my skin gets better and better everyday. I ACTUALLY PUT OIL ON MY FACE. On my acne-prone skin. And it’s clearer than ever. Seriously, you want great skin, read her cheat sheets. Now all I need is a bit of Sunday Riley in my life and I’ll be complete.
5. Gabifresh. I want to be her. That is all.
My birthday is this weekend, and as such I use it as an occasion to abuse my husband’s goodwill by indulging in all the things I love the most this week. People in my life know that I don’t just celebrate a birthday. It’s a birth event. A week-long excuse for me to do as I please. Re-reading this, I know it sounds a little bit diva, but all it really means is that I get to watch a few extra episodes of TV I love, or get to pick our weekend movie without hearing sighs or complaints about the fact it probably stars Katherine Heigl.
I know it’s technically the day after Christmas, but I’m still obsessed with all things Christmas and holidays… It’s my absolute favorite time of year, and with that in mind, here are a few things I’m obsessed with this week:
I love being obsessed with things. I love listening to the same song 100 times. I love wanting to do nothing but read until I’ve reached the last page. You know those feelings, right? Well, here are a few things that did that to me this week:
1. Knitting. I took a knitting class last year when I found out my sister was having a baby. I had dreams of knitting all the cute things in the world, but it turns out that I’ve not knitted one baby related item at all. I enjoy it, so I’m taking that enjoyment and forcing it’s output onto the people I love in the form of homemade gifts. I knitted this scarf for my mother-in-law, and I’m knitting this hat for my sister-in-law. My grandma is home from Florida for the Christmas season, so she’s next on my list. Hope they like them. They don’t get a choice in the matter. 🙂